A lot of people won’t even read the article once they’ve read the term “feminist” in my title, and that’s okay.
For the ones who actually continue reading, whether you’re a feminist yourself, whether you’re not, and whether you hate feminism and actually keep on reading, I just want to emphasize why I, MYSELF, am a feminist.
For lots and loooots of people, feminism = hating men. I’m so sorry to actually tell you this; but, 1. It’s not. 2. You’re stupid.
For what’s worth, people were feminists even before that word ever existed, now it’s all like “Do you believe in gender equality? GREAT! You’re a feminist”… I understand how annoying it is to slap labels on people just “because”. I’m not one of those people who’re going to go ahead and start explaining to you what feminism is just because you’re not one. I’m not one of those people who’ll shame women for being WOMEN and not FEMINISTS as well. So I’m not going to tell you YOU’RE WRONG for not being a feminist, instead I’m going to share my reasons, and invite you to UNDERSTAND them.
Feminism is by definition : 1- The advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of equality of the sexes.
2- A person who believes in the social, political and economic equality of the sexes. So again, feminism is NOT about hating men… At least I don’t hate every other man on this planet… and on every other planet…
I’m sorry to say this as well, in fact, it’s very unfortunate that people are becoming feminists for all the WRONG reasons. People are now joining feminist movements because it’s becoming a “trend”, or because it’s “cool”, or because they feel like roaming the streets naked.
THIS is NOT the true meaning of feminism, this is NOT why feminist movements were found, this is NOT why thousands and millions of women and young ladies are fighting, they’re not fighting for your right to shame men, they’re not fighting for your right to walk naked in public “just BECAUSE”.
I’m a feminist because gender inequality affects ALL genders. I’m a feminist because I’m sick of having to use “ I’m sorry, I have a boyfriend” as an excuse to not get hit on because somehow people respect another man being my boyfriend rather than respect my right to not be interested or simply my right to rejection.
I’m a feminist because i’m tired of that unbreakable bond between weakness and girls. You hit like A GIRL. Stop acting like A GIRL, man up. You throw like A GIRL. Etc etc etc!
It just sounds like being a girl is a matter of being weak, like it’s something to be ashamed of.
Men shouldn’t be afraid to show emotions.
I’m a feminist because women don’t have control over their own bodies, because the first question we ask a girl after getting raped or sexually harassed is “ WHAT WERE YOU WEARING?”, because somehow, length of clothing is an invitation ( well it’s NOT.) Because we teach women to be careful not to get raped rather than teaching people NOT to rape. Because, walking at night alone scares the hell out of me, it’s become TERRIFYING to me and to millions of other girls.
I’m a feminist because Men who are sexually active are “normal” and “have needs” ( somehow praised as well) , but Women that are sexually active are criticized and name-called.
I’m a feminist because women are still forced into marriages, because young girls are forced into marriages, because CHILDREN are forced into marriages.
I’m a feminist because 1 in 5 women are victims of rape or sexual abuse in any sort and people still have the audacity to tell rape jokes.
I’m a feminist because beauty standards are IMPOSSIBLE to live up to, for both MEN and WOMEN.
I’m a feminist because Men still discuss where a Woman’s place IS.
I’m a feminist because there are still millions of young girls out of school deprived of a proper education, because people don’t understand that their education will positively impact the world, because globally, more women working means a better economy.
To sum this all up, I don’t want to be told that I shouldn’t get into a taxi because I might get attacked. I don’t want to be afraid and scared to death to walk alone in the dark, * In winter it gets dark at like 5 pm, and smh I should be accompanied by a man to be able to walk peacefully*. I don’t want to live in a world where women can be raped and then can’t report through fear of getting shamed, punished, and attacked for having sex before or outside marriage, or even in some cases FORCED into marrying their rapist to avoid family shame.
I don’t want to live in a world where girls are still shamed for their bodies, where breastfeeding is considered “gross”, where getting an abortion is harder than buying a gun. ( and I don’t mean getting an abortion because I’LL GET FAT AND STRETCH MARKS AND OMG MY BODYYYYYYYYY). I’m pro choice not pro abortion it means that I’m not gonna judge women who get an abortion because it’s NONE OF MY DAMN BUSINESS.
If you hate feminism and consider this a “women are better than men” kind of movement… then I’m sorry. Women who we don’t know fought for us, fought for our basic human rights, for our rights to vote, for our rights to step out of the dark and have an opinion , for our rights to point fingers at all the wrong things and not be afraid.
I’m sorry, I won’t turn my back on people who still need fighting for, I’ll continue on believing in feminism for all the right reasons, and I’ll continue fighting for HUMAN rights regarding the gender.